February 14, 2019
I would like to thank everyone who reached out to us these past two weeks. We have received phone calls, text messages, emails, comments on the instagram and facebook post and private messages on all platforms. Jim and I feel supported and loved. We are very sad of course, but we were also quick to accept it and we are ok. But that doesn’t mean we don’t need support. So, thank you!
I knew this was a big deal to us and I felt ok sharing this because why not, writing is a way for me to deal with grief. I understood that I could maybe get messages from someone who has experienced it as well, but I never thought I would get this big of response, that it would be a big deal to others. People call me brave and strong for sharing our story. Thank you for that, but this should not be considered a brave thing to share. But for some reason this is a topic we aren’t talking openly about. Many women feel alone in this and they really shouldn’t. And neither should their partners. This is important to mention out loud. Infertility, miscarriages, stillbirths, loss of a newborn or whatever it is related to it all, it should not be hidden. Sure, we don’t need to speak about it if we don’t want to, but if we do feel like talking about it then we should not feel ashamed to do so. I don’t understand why it’s such a hush hush. We need to normalize this. We are not alone.
Women are writing to me about their own stories. I am taking my time to really read it and respond. This is not an easy subject to talk about, but I’m glad people are sharing and I’m happy to listen and be there for whoever else needs it.
I knew about miscarriages and that it’s not always easy to get pregnant or have children of your own at a very young age. Children should be aware of this I think and it’s up to us to inform them. There are those who walks around having no idea about any of this and then if it would happen to them it will only be harder for them to deal with, I think. If we are open about it then maybe we can deal with it differently. We should all be there for each other and support one another.